As I was stumbling upon my favorite sites this morning, I came across a post in Steve Olson’s blog, called How to break a negative thought pattern. Briefly, it was about a chain of negative thoughts generated by a computer monitor which broke. The idea was that the first negative thought attracted several others, generating frustration and anger. Then, by attracting a positive thought, this was followed by others, also positive, creating a better state of mind.

One reader had this comment: “I don’t understand what’s wrong with negative thinking. Some things really suck and should treated or thought of as such.

I have a question here: if those things suck, then why should our feelings suck, too? Anger and frustration do not fix things faster, actually they do not fix things at all. Blaming also is not constructive. It doesn’t matter if we blame others or we blame ourselves, it is still a state of pure complaining, which prevents things from moving on. Moreover, it can trigger a reaction very similar to the Chernobyl disaster, which killed and injured so many people for so many generations.

What if, instead of thinking of the past, we shifted our thoughts to future: OK, this annoying thing happened; what can I do to fix it?
Let’s take for example Archimedes: what if instead of crying EVRIKA, he would have started to think: “Oh, I spilled water all over the bathroom; my wife is going to kill me!? We would have never heard about Archimedes’ law, would we?


My point here is that winners in life never complain or blame. They just think solutions and act, and this is routing fortune and happiness their way. On the contrary, abusive men attract only misery and anger, and so they lose the battle for happines from the very beginning.