I believe internet is a wonderful place. Here you can find things you search for and things you did not ever imagine that existed. This morning, I came across a post in a forum, which made me wish to write this page. It was somebody, giving a website address, asking readers for feedback, as he wished to improve his site. I took a look and I could not believe my eyes: it was a site about getting revenge on your ex. You could even buy a revenge kit, with guaranteed effect and anonymity preserving. There was also an affiliate program for those who might have wanted to earn some money from selling the revenge kits. He guaranteed that you would feel much better after using the kit’s powers on your ex, which I doubt from at least reasons:      

  1. Revenge means looking back. It shows that you are not really detached from your past, since you still relate to it in your present actions. Directing your actions towards the past brings nothing but stagnation. Imagine what if my business went bad last year and now I’m spending all my time in scenarios about what would have happened if we did this or that? If instead of learning the lesson and move on to do better this year, I would spend my time trying to point at and to punish the guilty ones? This would be the end of my business, I bet you think that. Then, why would anybody choose to stop living and waste a lot of creative thinking in thoughts of hate and revenge?
  2. Revenge damages your internal organs. Your ex became an ex because there were bad things that he or she did to you, or because of his/her annoying behaviour, or because he or she cheated on you. Whatever the reasons, they are not reasons for joy, that’s for sure. When you plan a revenge, you bring into the front of your mind those unpleasant memories, to which your body would immediately respond. Think of such a moment: don’t you feel your heart beating a bit faster? Or a slight nervousness taking over your body? You had your share of nerves in the past; why to extend that on to the present, which is supposed to be better, once you got rid of your annoying ex?    
  3. There is a big probability that you obtain the opposite effect by revenge. If you do that and your ex finds out it was you, then he or she will be happy once more for having taken the decision to separate from you, it will be a confirmation of the fact that you were not good enough (and now, look! I have one more proof for that). If this is the only thing bothering you, then you may be one of the happy buyers of that kit which would help you stay anonymous.   

    4. I think that the best revenge ever and the best reward I could give to myself for taking such a wise decision as separating from a future ex who does not fulfil my needs, would be to get out of his/her life for good. Yes, I want a reward for being so wise, so I would give myself the privilege of never looking back to ugly moments, to remember only what was good, to learn my lesson from the bad and move on to live a new, happy life I’m sure that I deserve. A happy life is to look at the present moment, to enjoy what we have and what we live right now, not yesterday and not tomorrow. Yesterday and tomorrow are not worth worrying about: yesterday is already gone, so nothing can be changed about it and tomorrow never comes. When it will come, it will be called today, so we can never action tomorrow. Today and now are the words which, combined with action, can lead to a better life. 

    Think of those ill people who just find out that they still have to live a few months. What would you do if it was you in that position? Would you spend even two minutes of that time planning a revenge? I very much doubt that and I’m sure so do you. If all people would focus on the bright side of life, I’m sure we would be all part of a much more happier and funnier world, with more reasons for joy and well-being.      

     

     

 

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